Erotic Massage and a snippet from His to Master and Enjoy

This piece about erotic massage first appeared on fellow Siren author Tara Rose’s BDSM Blitz, and I’d thought I’d reprint it on my blog here. If you want to see what the other authors wrote in the BDSM Blitz follow the link HERE


My piece today is about erotic massage, using oils and lotions. You may even ask, what has erotic massage got to do with BDSM. Actually quite a lot, but then it all depends on the relationship and what the expectations are.

In fact, massage is an essential aid to warming the skin, especially as a prelude to a scene such as a spanking, caning etc. Oiling the flesh, keeps the skin supple, and also cuts down the risk of marking or scarring, although it does enhance the sting factor. Ouch! A good choice of oil would be baby oil.

Don’t forget that the aftercare of a sub is an essential role for the dominant, too. What better way than for the Top to gradually help the bottom from an intense rope bondage scene, than to gently massage sweet smelling oils and lotions into their skin and tired muscles, thus showing their appreciation for their submission. A good choice of oil would be those containing soothing and relaxing ingredients such as, Jasmine, Lavender, jojoba and Vitamin E.

Some oils come with a little more pizzazz than you’re expecting. Add some zing to the massage by using ones that heat up the skin. Ones containing, cinnamon, or ginger extract are particularly good. While mentholated rubs, or those containing peppermint start off cool and later become hot. Take things a step further and imagine the effect these oils will have if massaged into intimate areas—a perfect choice for the dominant with a sadistic streak. If using these for enhancing sex, always dilute them first with a water-based lube. Oils such as cinnamon are far too hot to be applied directly to the skin. Start off with a low fifty-fifty mix, and work up to the desired strength.

If a Top is feeling particularly evil, they may use a warming oil, such as one containing cinnamon before a spanking, thus increasing the burn and intensity for their sub. Or, if they use it afterwards then this will prolong the sting. A word of caution: Never use these types of oils on broken or damaged skin, because it could lead to infection.

We’ve all heard of wax play, but did you know that you can buy small massage candles, which contain oils, and fragrances that will enhance your night of passion. Simply light the candle, allow the candle to liquefy, and then pour over your willing partner. Perfect. Now you can combine wax play with a sensual massage. Warning: Always use candles specifically for massage. They have low melting points, and won’t harm delicate skin.

If in doubt, remember that all oils and lotions should be tested on a small patch of skin first. Some oils will degrade latex. Any oil based product used as lube will have a detrimental effect on condoms. These can be anything from Vaseline, baby oil, and even whipped cream. So do be careful.

I hope you’ve enjoyed my piece on massage. In my July release, His to Master and Enjoy, I incorporate a little erotic massage into one of the scenes. 

Here’s a small extract from the book to wet your appetite.

Leon tenderly smoothed his hand over her cheek. Giving herself to him like this took a tremendous amount of courage. Her lips trembled from the effort not to shout out and use her safeword. He brushed his fingers through her hair and looked into her beautiful, frightened eyes, feeling his love for her grow with each breath that he took. She was doing this for him—for them. 

“I’ll never hurt you, Paige. Not in the true sense of the word.” 

“I know that deep down, but now I can’t escape, I feel scared and totally at your mercy.” Her breathing sounded fast, and her breasts rose and fell with increasing rapidity. 

“Then I shall give you something else to think about.” He poured some massage oil into his hand and then proceeded to spread it over the sensuous curve of her belly and breasts, enjoying the feel of the womanly shape beneath his fingertips. 

“What is that?” 

“Something to warm you up and help take your mind off things. It contains cinnamon, and ginger.”  

Her eyes widened. “But that will bur—” 

“Yes, my pet, that’s right, but it will be a nice burn, you’ll see.”